Indian Double Standards


India is the second largest country in terms of population.  India’s languages, religions, food, music, dance and customs differs from each other. Where the individual or social differences in physical attributes, skin colour, castes, cultural and religious practices, etc. are not looked upon as a conflict. Rather, these differences are looked upon as varieties that enrich the society and the nation as a whole. Indian culture often called as “An Amalgamation of Several Cultures” or “The Epitome of the World”. The high mountain ranges, vast seas , large river-irrigated lands, countless rivers and streams, dark forests, sandy deserts all these have adorned India with an exceptional diversity. This is our India, the land of “Unity in Diversity”.  

In spite of having the rich culture, our society is full of hypocrisy. Our society has double standards with countless things like gender equality, skin colour, religious customs etc. Double standards present in Indian society from Vedic period to modern days. The society can be very cruel on both genders, especially on women.

In our society it is said that men and women are equal. They have equal rights as well as they are treated equally. These things are said to prove that we don’t discriminate between the two genders. However, I always have the question in my mind, “How much of it is true?  Have we really attained gender equality as a society? Or is it just a myth? “.


Women are expected to wear traditional clothing like saree and salwar- kameez in family gatherings and places of worship while men can wear whatever they like. A woman wearing jeans or short-skirts is referred as “cultural assassination” in India still now, while men have been wearing western attire for generations. In wedding receptions, brides wear sarees or lahengas while grooms wear suits.  Brides are not allowed to do wear any western dress.


A revealing saree is favored over a combination of jeans and t-shirt which will cover the entire body. A girl wearing crop top is considered as a bad girl as she reveals her waist but if a girl revealing same amount of waist by wearing a saree is considered a cultural and good girl.

India is a country where we respect and worship many goddesses as “Devi” like Durga, Kali, Laxmi etc. but it is the same country where hundreds of girl child are killed before or after their birth as they are considered as burden to her parents and family. Families also give less preference in education of girl child compared to a boy still today especially in small towns and villages.


A house wife is considered as normal but a house husband is considered as an absurd thing. A house husband is not considered as a man in our society. Why only women or wives leave her job after marriage or having a baby? A man can also do that for his family. A woman with same qualities gets less salary than his male colleagues.


We love to watch 40-50 year old heroes in movies but a heroine above 40 rarely get an important role of a movie. A married actor is considered as handsome as an unmarried actor.  However, a married actress is considered as unattractive after marriage in spite of having great acting quality.

 A girl is considered as inauspicious during her period which is a biological process and that is not her fault. She is not allowed to go to any temple as well as can not take part in any religious custom.  On the other hand a man who can be a rapist or murderer is allowed to enter in a temple because he is a man and has no periods.


Not only in religious or cultural discrimination is shown; in case of crimes also women are facing the Indian double standards.  A girl who is a rape victim faces more difficulties, harassment and assaults than the criminal who have done the heinous crime.  She may be shunned from the society. She may be blamed for what kind of cloths she wears or it is her fault that she went at night alone in the streets. She may be doubted as having a bad character.  The same kind things happen in some other countries also.


In various statements you heard from insensitive politicians and famous personalities it is found that they are blaming the victim herself despite showing sympathy to her or talking about the accused who should be punished. These statements are insensitive, inhuman and full of double standards.

When it comes to beauty a fair and slim girl is preferred as a beautiful girl. In magazines, hoardings, films we see an impossible standards of beauty for women which creates insecurity among millions of women. Yes there are standards for men also, but they are much lesser. Men are asked to be bigger, stronger, occupy more space. Women are asked to shrink, become smaller and occupy even less space.


We worship lord Krishna and ma Kali but we don’t like dark skinned people. We want our daughters to do a good job but don’t allow our daughter-in-laws to do jobs. In our homes we all notice that males take important decisions only as the head of our family most of the times. If these things are not double standards then what is double standards? Not only India in other countries also these kinds of double standards can be shown.

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These things are not all. There are much more cases are present in India where double standards can be shown. Now the question is why these things are going on from ages and continue still today?  The answer is we women are not protest against this. They accept these things as their faith since they are women. Most of the women agree with these things and they stop other women to protest.

Is it all women’s fault? No. The problem is lack of education and family support.  In India female literacy rate is only 65.46%; out of which only few percent of women get proper higher education. How can a woman protest where her family is also showing double standards from the time of her birth?

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53 thoughts on “Indian Double Standards

  1. Damn true but at the same time i would say that we Indians are the reason behind it. We like to flirt with someone’s sister but when it comes to us then we become totaly 180 degree. The women in other countries are allowed to move wherever they want, to wear whatever they want, to do whatever their intention is. So, why our girls cant??? I would say that a women in any manner is quite better than a man. We see a man smoking and abusing even if he is well dressed but hardly see a girl or woman like that. I support women. We should not forget the fact that due to a woman we are and thats our mother. So , please be respectful to every woman and support Women Empower ,one day you will find the India has changed..!!
    Thanks Rashmi for creating awareness.

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    1. thank you so much rohit for reading.. i appreciate the way you give respect to women.. if every man thinks like you there will be no double standards exists.. 🙂


  2. Right msg fr Indians…just to say that girls are ahead doesn’t mean they r kept ahead..We hv to inspire those womens to walk before men in society.. truly appreciated..

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    1. thank you for reading subhrojit… 🙂 you can read more amazing posts like this in future.. keep reading and raise your voice against double standards present in our society…


  3. So true.even there is awarness, something is missing. For me, its perspective of treating of women.for centuries, women often neglected in most of the field.what more shocking is that many women prefered to be treated like that. So to change that, we need to change our perspective.
    Anyways, this is really good post. Thnx for reminding us once again.

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    1. thanx tanu for reading… 🙂 yes, saddest part is women in our country like to be treated like this. this is not their fault completely, they are habituated with it as it is going on for ages.. keep reading and give your wonderful feedback like this. 😀


  4. This is clearly a hugely debated issue. In my view, both have a distinctive make-up and a role to play. Equality is difficult to gauge in many areas. In my view the debate should be on ensuring respect for people, whether men/women, black/white, rich/poor, Bengali/Bihari, etc. On both sides.

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    1. thank you for reading my blog post and sharing your opinion ankur. yes, i wanted to tell that both should be treated equally in our society. people should e judge by their talent and ability not y their genders.

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  5. This was an eye opener since I was not aware of continuing disparity and inequality. I once wrote about college friend from India, his name was Kim and he got a mail bride, Sunny. When we hung out I got her to try and help Kim to accept Sunny becoming Americanized. 🙂

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    1. thank you for reading my post.. 🙂 i have not written about the entire country.. in some places women are respected as much as men or more than men sometimes.. this things happen in villages and small towns mainly. in big cities also these things are seen but that is rare.. we had a female president also; she is Dr. prativa patil.. don’t e upset.. you have a chance this time to have a female president.. Mrs. Hillary Clinton.. 🙂

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  6. You’ve hit the nail spot on! Good one. With due respect to some of the fantastic men out there, want to add that its equally important to educate men and change their mindset too.

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  7. The double standards (discrimination) exist in the US too, though not to quite the same degree. Progress is so slow and it’s a battle that every woman should continue. Fortunately, more men are standing up and speaking against discrimination too.

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    1. thank you so much for reading my blog post D. Wallace Peach…:) yes discrimination is everywhere.. being a girl i wanted to highlight this matter.. that’s very good. i hope in our country men will stand up against discrimination soon.. 🙂

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    1. thank you so much for reading my blog post.. this is the most amazing compliment i have ever gotten. thanks again.. i want every woman in this world fight for her dignity as well as for other women’s also.. if a women will not support other women in her bad times, then who will support? keep reading and stay positive in your life.. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my blog post.. I am glad that you liked my post and found it interesting. yes, cultures are different in our country based on states, religions etc. but we all are united.. We all are proud Indians.

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  8. Thank you very much for posting this. I am so interested in all aspects of Indian culture. In some ways, especially the spiritual, it is so far superior to the U.S. I love Indian movies but lately they are trying to copy movies of the West that they are losing their special appeal for me. I certainly don’t think movies of the West are anything to emulate. Here I see women in jeans and the shirts. I have taken to wearing kurti and leggings, very modest and such lovely design. Is it wrong for me as a western woman to wear Indian clothes? I hope not. I’Lloyd be following your blog and thank you for following mine.

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    1. thank you for reading this post.. i am glad to know that you like Indian culture and Indian movies… it is not at all wrong to wear any kind of clothe you like, whether it is Indian or western.. thank you for following my blog..:)

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  9. Rashmi, brava to you for taking on tough topics so courageously! Your blog is full of timely and universal topics (i.e., gender equality, justice, and human dignity). Thank you for being the catalyst for such important conversations.

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    1. Thank you for reading Kennedy.. yes each and every topic of my blog is timeless.. This is a small initiative to make people happy and positive in their lives.. Being a responsible person it is my duty..

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    1. Thank you Sumanta for reading this post and sharing your feedback… yes, I completely agree with what you have written… This is a small step to remove double standard mentality and gender discrimination from Indian society..


  10. Excellent post. Thank you for pointing all this out. As a woman who fought for women’s rights when I was younger, I find we have made headway here in Canada but still we must fight every day against stereotypes and to make sure we don’t backtrack. We must fight for our rights and equality. It is every woman’s responsibility to go forward and teach the world that we are and deserve to be equal.

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  11. Hi Ramshi,

    You have hit the nail on the head. As a western visiting India. I struggle with all the rules as I call them. Firstly I guess I am a lucky one when in house I can wear western clothing but how dramatic that changes when I go outdoors. I must wear this I must wear that omg. Firstly my culture a married woman wears a wedding ring (band) on her left hand & so do some western men. I hate wearing the bindi, the band is enough for me. Also my husband who is Indian living in Europe will not wear the powder on his forehead. Double standards. When going out I have to wear salwar & jeans I would prefer to wear my western clothes. I am difference I want to be. Why do I want to copy what everyone’s else wears so want to be individual not a clone. Gold is another No with me, I don’t understand the concept of I don’t have or don’t wear people think I’m poor again I feel for people who cannot afford, if feel it’s like “o look at me” my bangles are better than yours. Wake up people. Your health is your wealth not the gold you wear. Ooc

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